About Supper

I know I said I would blog yesterday but I had a bad case of I-don’t-know-what-to-cook-for-supper-itis.

It started in the morning when I asked Rick if he had any idea what he’d like to eat that evening. Unfortunately, he has a permanent case of the aforementioned affliction. I don’t know why I keep asking.

As a general rule, I don’t mind cooking and pretty much, I always like eating. So why is it so hard sometimes to figure out what the heck’s for supper? Sure we could default to a bowl of cereal or a bowl of ice cream or a bowl of bacon – we don’t usually have any little kids around that we need to set “a good example” for. But maybe it’s the way I was brought up – and Rick, too, for that matter: supper usually means some meat, some starch and always, some vegetables.

I don’t ever remember my mom in a dilemma about what she would put on the table. Mom had her repertoire and it was all good. And except for the Co-op cafeteria or McDonalds when we went shopping in Edmonton, I can barely recall even eating in a restaurant with her. Mom was thrifty and bonus: she was a great cook.

And then I moved to Edmonton to go to university. My downfall began when I moved away from my mom’s good habits and figured out I could spend my student loan at Maxwell Taylor’s and on all the offerings at HUB and SUB. Plus my new roommate showed me a brand-new trick: I could eat dessert first.

Whether you have the money to eat out all the time or not, sooner or later, like after a looooong road trip, you just want to eat a home-cooked meal. Or as I, my kids and countless others have announced when they returned home to their mom’s kitchen: I just want to eat some real food.

It’s funny – I didn’t discover The Mom 100 Cookbook until my kids had almost all moved away from home. My cupboard was populated with plenty of Company’s Coming cookbooks but a review in a magazine about this one intrigued me. I ordered it from the library and soon after, I ordered it from Amazon.

Hands down, this has got to be my favorite cookbook. Before Katie Workman entered my life, I had never made jambalaya (her version is called Arroz con Pollo) or a decent meatloaf. And we always had spaghetti with a loose meat sauce. Now I always corral my ground beef into her yummy meatballs.

I know with the Interweb, we don’t really need paper cookbooks anymore. But there’s something to be said for having it all downloaded and on your counter for easy browsing. Plus, like Jean Pare, I now know I can pretty much trust almost everything Katie has to offer. She tells a story before each recipe and you don’t have to scroll miles and miles down the page to get to the ingredients if you want to skip the story for later.

Also important: there’s a picture of every recipe so you can at least have some idea what you’re aspiring for. And the ingredients for the most part are pretty run-of-the-mill: true genius in the kitchen, after all, usually begins by sautéing some onions and garlic. Because as much as I enjoy watching the TV show Chopped, I am really not interested in cooking with natto or squid ink. Probably ever.

What makes The Mom Cookbook unique are the forks-in-the-road that she includes with every recipe. Meaning you can customize each recipe to accommodate the plain-er palates (usually kids) along with the more adventurous and you don’t have to cook a separate meal. (And it’s not just adding Frank’s to everything.) Sooner or later, the kids are gonna move up the taste-bud-food-chain. Because: exposure. I was a picky eater when I was a kid, but most picky eaters eventually get curious about what’s on the other plates around them.

I didn’t cook from Katie’s cookbook last night – I defrosted some ground beef and we made hamburgers in the cast iron frying pan with melted Edam cheese, sautéed mushrooms and fresh greens on a Coop bakery bun. And some homemade fries in the oven. It wasn’t original, but it was good.

And I have no idea what we’re going to eat tonight…

About A Month Later

It’s been officially a month since we moved into a smaller home and I have to say: it’s been a busy one. Here’s my one-month recap in no particular order…

  1. Packing, moving, unpacking and ALL that goes with it really can mess with a person’s good intentions. Hence no blog post AT ALL last week. I told myself that I was taking spring break, maybe because the weather was so nice? But then, right smack dab in the middle of the week and despite the near-zero temperatures on either side of Wednesday, we got a blast of minus 30. It was just one day but I got to wondering – was that my fault? Did my smugness about the weather produce a smackdown? Oops. For insurance purposes, I have decided to get back to my two-blog posts a week. If March comes in like a lamb, you have me to thank. You’re welcome.
  2. My bookshelves are still in flux. (See above.) Because, reading emergencies besides, organizing my books is just not as important as work and sleep and feeding ourselves. (Oh, and Amazon Prime as we take our near-daily dose of re-watching The Mentalist from the beginning.) But also, I am trying a new thing with my books – shelving them by color. I’ve always filed my books in a particular order that allowed me to easily track them but author/podcaster Anne Bogel of What Should I Read Next? inspired me to go this crazy route. Crazy also because I’ve always been someone who kept the jackets on the books and now that I’ve removed them all, I don’t recognize any of my books anymore. It’s like going to a family reunion with amnesia.
  3. Remember how we cancelled Christmas? And New Year’s? And basically the first couple weeks of January because everyone around us (but not their dog) got sick? Well, Family Day weekend we had a do-over at my sister-in-law’s with turkey and taters and games and some general holiday hanging out followed by turkey sandwiches and two Oiler wins to boot. A very merry February Christmas indeed.
  4. My article Mom in the Driver’s Seat came out in the February/March 2020 issue of Our Canada magazine. It feels good to get some publishing traction again. But it also was good to remember the story of my mom finally getting her driver’s license when she was well into her fifties! I knew the story, but her grandchildren didn’t. (This is why we need to tell stories.) What a testimony to keep doing hard things even as we get older and “the things” get harder.
  5. I finally got to see the new Little Women movie with my dear friend Rhonda in a quaint little original theatre in Vegreville. Living 40 miles apart, we have no qualms about meeting anywhere within a hundred-mile radius for some good story telling like that, especially if Meryl is in the lineup – and she is the best Aunt March ever. And bonus: Rhonda introduced me to a gem of a restaurant in Veg: Loco Burro Fresh Mexican Grill. Yum. Go eat there now.
  6. And speaking of YUM – we used a gift certificate last weekend with two of our boys for a restaurant whose very name made them happy: MEAT. It was a seriously fun eating experience (not to mention the food was DELICIOUS) and our server Andrew6167 made it even better. (Thanks for the MEAT, Sydney! You always know the best places to eat!)
  7. Strathcona is such a fun place on a Saturday night and after our MEAT, we walked down the back alley and then piled in with all the other late night fans for some Made By Marcus ice cream. The. Best. Ever. Ice. Cream. Ever. Period.
  8. We went to Vegas in Vermilion with our good friends Cliff and Caroline (THE MAYOR) McAuley which was hosted by the Good Life Institute. A fancy meal followed by some fake-money gambling – but the chips made it look like the real thing. The highlight of the evening for me was hanging out with the group of senior ladies that hired Len’s Party Bus to ferry them to and from the event! What a fun bunch!
  9. I went to the Inspiring Women Conference in Lloydminster and was…well, inspired. My favorite: the panel session with Canada’s first female professional chuckwagon racer Amber L’Heureux, silk artist Bonny MacNab and the first female CEO of Lloydminster & District Co-op Leanne Hawes. Not to mention the keynote with Carrie Doll, brilliantly timed just when the afternoon sleepies want to hit – but Doll kept me very entertained and interested. She has a great story and a great podcast, The Inner Circle, where she gets many other Edmonton locals to tell their stories.
  10. My husband and I are enjoying a blast from the past as I am re-reading the Harry Potter books out loud to him every night. We started reading them aloud as a family in 2003 so a revisit is long overdue. We’re just getting into The Prisoner of Azkaban – Large Marge has been deflated and Harry has escaped the Dursleys for another year. Yay Hogwarts!

Okay, I didn’t know I did that much stuff. What a fun re-cap! See you Thursday!

About Packing and Unpacking

An eerie depiction by artist Michael Johansson

So, in case I haven’t mentioned it already, we moved recently. Which means we are still in the throes of unpacking. And unpacking after the initial excitement has worn off is annoying. It’s like a game of Monopoly where you want to sabotage yourself and lose all your money to get out except people keep landing on your properties and paying you. And they’re paying you in unpacked boxes.

Moving, though somewhat of a monumental task, was facilitated by the adrenaline of the deadline. The packing, the cancelling and setting up of services, the praying for good weather in the middle of January – it’s all rather time-sensitive, so it gets done.

The packing has its own rhythm. A few weeks in advance, it’s like playing Jenga with your household items. It’s easy at first: I packed those things that were superfluous to everyday life or, at least, to my everyday January life. I easily boxed up things like fondue pots, swimsuits, CDs, weigh scales, Halloween decorations and our flip-flop collection.

The closer you get to the actual moving date, the trickier/Jenga-er it gets. Who knows what kind of cooking utensils you need to leave till the last minute? Or just how many clothes you will need for that first week because you won’t have the energy to unpack the rest of your clothes for at least another week? (Or two.) Or which books you need to leave out in case of a reading emergency? One false move and the whole thing comes crashing down as you find yourself rooting in ALL of your packed boxes for Post-It notes and leftover chocolate from Christmas. (Just kidding, there is no such thing as leftover chocolate.)

The day before moving, no matter your intentions of packing like items together for a seamless transition later, you start firing all manner of things into overly-large boxes whose weight will inspire colorful curse words, tying pillows and utensils and shampoo bottles up in bedsheets, and shoving furniture screws and such into your jeans pockets, confident you will remember where everything goes/went when you get to the new house.

You won’t.

Once all your worldly goods are finally at your new destination, the game changes to Tetris. Especially in the case of downsizing. It’s simple in the beginning because you start with the big stuff: for the most part, the table goes in the dining room, the beds go in the bedrooms, the desk goes in the office. Well, hypothetically the desk goes in the office. My desk, my overly-large-teenage-elephant-desk, went into the garage. Because when I bought it, I never envisioned the proper size necessary to fit into a tiny bedroom/office. Oh, the short-sightedness of empty-nesters! Silver lining: it classes up the garage.

But I digress. After the large pieces are in place, the game of Tetris starts coming at you faster and faster as you unpack your boxes and figure out what goes where. Our new kitchen easily has room for the forks and knives, a reasonable number of dishes, the toaster and the coffee maker. (Or even, the three coffeemakers. Because: coffee.)

Once the kitchen was unpacked, the linen closet filled and the bathrooms organized, I was pleased with the minimalist look our house exuded. THIS was before I started opening all the boxes of books and knickknacks. And extra kitchen stuff. And extra books and knickknacks. The clue that we have too much stuff: in the few short weeks since I packed some things, I lost all recollection of even owning them. Like, hypothetically: if a garbage bag full of, let’s say, Precious Moments statuettes accidentally was thrown away, I would be none the wiser. (This didn’t happen. I got rid of those several moves ago.)

I will continue with this game of Tetris because even though empty counters are easy to clean and restful for the eyes, the house doesn’t look like it’s been lived in yet. And I can’t get rid of things like my mom’s Royal Purple mug, the ornate jewelry box my Baba gave me for graduation, the birthday cards my daughter-in-law drew for me, the framed pictures of my boys in all their stages of growing up. I might work hard at being organized and clutter-free, but the “messes” that humans make in my home are still welcome, those messes that bear witness to life lived and not just displayed.

And besides, I wanna know what’s still in all those unpacked boxes.

About Moving Margaret

So, we moved a couple weekends ago. And while the new house has quickly taken shape, Rick and I are bent out of it. As I regaled all our many former moves in my last post, I honestly thought I was ready for this one.

I wasn’t.

It’s not that we didn’t have everything packed. It’s wasn’t that I wasn’t ready to feed our hard-working crew on Saturday – I got up early to start the crockpot of hot dogs that is part of our moving tradition. (Because, as I told my sister-in-law, we have moved enough to have a moving tradition.) It’s just that we didn’t factor in that we are older and therefore the recovery from moving a mere 6 blocks west was going to take a couple chiropractors, massage therapists and a lot of time.

Another hazard of getting older: moving beyond the typical IKEA cardboard furniture. This genre of house furnishings remains popular despite the wordless and sometimes fruitless instructions that accompany its assembly. It’s cheap(ish) and usually light and therefore, easy to move. But what we noticed this time is that alas! we had invested in some actual wood furniture since the last move. And wood can be, well, heavy.

And then, there was the piano. The move to our former house eleven and a half years ago pretty much also marks the beginning of our three boys’ musical careers. We already had purchased a keyboard in 2007 when the Radio Shack here in town – a.k.a. L&K Television – shut down. Piano lessons with the amazing Luis Guarnica started soon after in September and by December, he had them playing Christmas carols.

And then some friends were moving away to a temporary location and asked: Would we store their piano for them? Storing: meaning in our living room where three young men could plink away on it daily. It was a win-win situation. Until they wanted their piano back.

And so, it was back to the Radio Shack special.

That year, at music festival, the astute adjudicator, after listening to the boys play their pieces, commended their efforts but then called out to the crowd, wanting her remark to land on my ears: “Mom, these boys need a real piano.”

It was our luck that my ears weren’t the only listeners. A lady from our church heard this message as well. And so it was that a few nights later, we got a phone call from Bill, who summoned us to visit him in the hospital. Would we, he asked, be interested in “hanging on” to his late wife’s piano for awhile? And so “Margaret” – named for her former owner – came live at our house.

Just say the words “move a piano” and you can quickly clear a room. Pianos are just heavy. And awkward. And big. It usually requires a lot of muscle, followed by a lot of pizza afterwards. Margaret signified the end of the move as it was the last thing to go a couple weekends ago, when she went to live with two of the boys in their home in Edmonton. After all, Rick and I only know how to play the radio – it made much more sense for the piano to be where the music makers live.

And so our rural piano moved to the big city, took a trip up an elevator and hopefully will live there for at least another eleven and a half years. Which should be enough time for all of us to forget how hard it is to move a dang piano. Even one with a disarming name like Margaret.